If 'hoarding' is to reserve in mind for a future use, then I guess I’ve always had a bit of a problem with hoarding. Or to put it more accurately, I guess my problem is one of ‘saving’. I tend to save the things I really love. I save them for later. Waiting for the perfect time to actually use the things I feel are special. This ‘saving’ is prevalent in many areas of my life. I save beautiful gift wrap, my best note cards, handmade cloth napkins, magazines (as I mentioned here), and clothing.
I obtain lovely treasures and then I wait.
Not wanting to ‘waste’ the specialness on just any old day or occasion.
I’m beginning to realize that this habit isn’t serving me very well.
I’m not sure it ever did.
Earlier this season, when I pulled out my summer clothing bin and examined the contents, I noticed that some of my favorite pieces were beginning to show some wear. Fabrics weren’t quite as fresh, silhouettes were losing their shape, styles didn’t feel very current. (All of this led to my new t-shirt shopping trip)
I realize that most clothing (especially softer summer pieces) won’t last forever...but looking at my summer wardrobe, I became acutely aware that I didn’t really wear the pieces I love most very much last year.
I was too cautious.
Saving them for the fantasy life I live in my head.
(I'm hoping you know what I mean because you have one too:-)
The life you picture when you shop for cozy cashmere sweaters in pale neutrals- “Hello, Cameron Diaz” in The Holiday or the gauzy, breezy tunic you’d wear after sunning yourself on a yacht anchored just off the coast of a glorious Greek island.
Those scenarios are not my current life...but my current life is pretty great, so why don't I dress like it?
I’m finished saving my stuff for later.
If I’ve learned anything from watching my daughter graduate from high school in May, and from a recent trio of wake-up calls, it’s that life does indeed pass by in a flash!
Why haven’t I been wearing I my favorites?
I’ve been doing lots of work on myself over the past 8 or 9 months. Digging deep to figure out my baggage/habits/tendencies and make corrections where possible. (And yes, for the record, it's kind of exhausting;-)
I’ve long been aware that when I really love a piece of clothing...I save it. I don’t want to wear it out. I like knowing that I have it...but I hesitate/struggle to pull it on when it’s time to get dressed.
If I’m really honest and explore my thoughts about this habit, I come up with some twisted reasons for not wearing my favorites...
Tomorrow’s weather might be a little better (rare in Boulder:-)
I might spill something on it.
It elevates my outfit a bit more than the grocery store warrants.
I’m only going to be dressed for a little while.
I’ll just wear something older so that the new item can stay new.
This is pure crazy talk!
NOW is NOW!
There is no tomorrow. By the time tomorrow arrives it’s NOW again.
Saving clothing or other stuff for ‘someday’ is not living in the present moment.
So, if you're like me, there is a simple cure for ‘hoard-your-clothes-itis’...
Just wear it!
With the exception of a special occasion piece waiting for the occasion, start wearing your clothes. Today!
Clothing doesn’t last forever. Even if you don’t wear it often, eventually, all fabrics start to lose their luster. Why not squeeze every hour of use out of each and every piece you own?
You paid good money for the items in your closet.
You spent your precious time shopping for your clothing.
Ideally, you should love all of the clothing in your closet. And all of that clothing should support your current lifestyle.
So...wear your clothing!
If you find yourself saving things, remember the ‘cost per wear’ goes down every time you wear a garment. More wear = money better spent!
If you’re stuck on actually wearing all of the clothing in your wardrobe, you could try this challenge…
Wear Everything You Own
It's free and eye-opening and fun!
It's August already! It'll be time for fall/winter clothes before I can blink. I’ll be taking my own advice. I’m planning to wear what I already own. Often.
What are you saving for later?
How would you feel if you actually started wearing or using what you’re saving?
Please share your thoughts! I'd love to know I'm not alone in this bizarre habit:-)
Have a super week! Thank you for following along.
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Hello, I'm Kristen.
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