Oh, this Write 31 Days challenge is really opening my eyes to some very personal issues. That was part of the objective when I selected my topic, but it’s interesting to actually feel it as I work through the month, exploring the words I’ve chosen. By choosing Simply 50- refining life for the next decade, I figured I’d give myself a good nudge towards revamping the areas of my life where I’m stuck or currently dissatisfied.
Today’s word is no exception.
I’m beyond terrible at setting goals. I'm hopeless at actually creating a goal and working towards it. I’ve always been extremely vague when it comes to truly deciding what I want and going after it with a cohesive plan.
I’m not sure why, but I just can’t seem to get this habit rolling in my life. I believe it has to do with not wanting to fail, but also being afraid to succeed. Silly, but true.
The remarkable thing is...when I do manage to set a goal....I usually achieve it.
I know that all of the goal-setting experts report that unless you set a concrete goal, the universe has no idea what you want. Makes sense. Yet, I still I rarely goals.
I’d like this to change. I do feel that I’d accomplish more and feel more fulfilled if I had a better relationship with goals.
The fear component has allowed me to stay non-committal. In order to set a goal, I’d actually have to take the time to determine what outcome I really want. That’s often difficult for me. I think I’m afraid to explore and identify what I truly want. Big dreams are scary because they could meet with failure. And the little things don’t seem grand enough to warrant setting a specific goal.
Even as I write, I realize this area of my life needs a major adjustment.
It’s high time I let go of the uneasy feeling I get when I think about setting goals...and just set one! A small one to start and then hopefully I can work up to setting a few larger goals before the end of the year.
I’ve done plenty of research on how to create goals. The method that has always made the most sense to me is the SMART method. This method uses the acronym SMART as a guideline for setting goals.
Below is an outline adapted from the Mind Tools website. More details for using the SMART method can be found easily with a quick Google search.
Huge issue for me. Remember, I like vague:-)
Your goal should be clear and specific, otherwise you won't be able to focus your efforts or feel truly motivated to achieve it.
When drafting your goal, try to answer the five "W" questions:
What do I want to accomplish?
Why is this goal important?
Who is involved?
Where is it located?
Which resources or limits are involved?
I’ve always omitted this step. Afraid I won’t actually measure up with my progress, I don't rely on a method for measuring.
It's important to have measurable goals, so you can track your progress and stay motivated. Assessing progress helps you to stay focused, meet your deadlines, and feel the excitement of getting closer to achieving your goal.
A measurable goal should address questions such as:
How will I know when it is accomplished?
I feel added pressure when I'm trying to achieve a specific outcome.
Your goal also needs to be realistic and attainable to be successful. In other words, it should stretch your abilities but still remain possible. When you set an achievable goal, you remain empowered with each step that brings you closer to your goal.
An achievable goal will usually answer questions such as:
How can I accomplish this goal?
How realistic is the goal for my currently life?
This step isn’t too hard for me. If I do manage to set a goal, it’s definitely relevant to me.
This step is about ensuring that your goal matters to you, and that it also aligns with other relevant goals. We all need support and assistance in achieving our goals, but it's important to retain control over them. So, make sure you're still responsible for achieving your own goal.
A relevant goal can answer "yes" to these questions:
Does this seem worthwhile?
Is this the right time?
Right here is my biggest hang-up. I don’t ever assign a deadline to my goals. I’ve wanted to speak French fluently for decades. I have no set goal and no timeline...therefore, the chances are slim that I’ll ever truly be able to announce “Je parle français couramment”.
Every goal needs a target date, so that you have a deadline to focus on and something to work toward. This part of the SMART goal criteria helps to prevent everyday tasks from taking priority over your longer-term goals.
A time-bound goal will usually answer these questions:
What can I do six months from now?
What can I do six weeks from now?
What can I do today?
Okay, I’m ready to start setting some goals! I’m intrigued at the thought of defining what I want, then crossing things off my list and crushing some lifelong dreams!
How do you set goals?
Are you usually successful?
Any tips for a newbie?
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Hello, I'm Kristen.
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