Over the past few years I’ve come to view ‘busy’ as a bad word. The dictionary defines 'busy' as having a great deal to do or to keep occupied. I’ve struggled for over a decade with having way too much on my plate and my list. I’ve foolishly believed I could do it all, only to find that my list was always growing and my plate was always overflowing.
I’ve decided that I want my cup and my heart to overflow, not my plate.
Courtney Carver creator of Be More with Less, suggested removing the word busy from our vocabulary. Striving to really pause before using the busy to describe our situation. Re-framing in order to see what we’re creating in our lives.
American culture views busy as a status symbol. Being busy means you're important.
But does it?
Or does being busy mean we’re not being wise and considerate with our one and only lifetime?
I recently had the pure pleasure of meeting Dr. Kathy Masarie (she was one of our incredible teachers at Nine Revolution 2017).
Dr. Kathy suggested that instead of saying, “I’m so busy”, we say, “I’m choosing to put more on my plate than I can handle”.
How's that for truth?
And from a Law of Attraction standpoint (more on that later this month) I believe we’re just bringing on more busy when we constantly talk about how busy we are.
Let busy go. Try to eliminate busy from your vocabulary for one day. One week. One month. Whatever feels right to you. Take a breath before you complain or brag about being busy. I’m not sure it’s something to be proud of anymore.
1. Evaluate what’s making you so ‘busy’- Take a long look at what’s on your list. What can you cross off for good? What can you streamline or combine in order to simplify your schedule.
2. Have to’s and get to’s- Really examine the things in your life that you have to do...re-frame some of them into get to’s. For instance, I don’t love going to the grocery store, but I’ve stopped grumbling about having to go...because I’ve reshaped my thinking to realize that it’s an incredible privilege to be able to buy food to feed my family. The same is true for exercise...I’m blessed to be able to move my body and continue to improve my health. Was a have to, now a get to.
3. Delegate- Seek help. My youngest son folds and distributes all of the laundry at our house. I choose to have a professional polish my toenails because it takes me forever and I do a dreadful job. Identify which tasks you can pass on to someone else...and then do it!
4. Breathe and accept- I still have days that the old me would consider very busy. But the new me sees it in a new light. On paper, my schedule might show a full and potentially stressful day, but I remind myself to breathe and accept the fullness. If I can’t change the situation (school or sporting events, appointments, necessary meetings or phone calls) then I face it with patience and lots of deep breathing.
5, Expect the best- When my day turns out to be more full than I’d like, I move through it with high expectations. I remove any dread from my mind. I believe that things will flow smoothly and that I’ll finish what needs to be done with ease. And, it usually works:-)
How do you deal with being busy?
Bonus: My delightful store manager at Anthropologie just shared this article with me. It's explores the 'disease of being busy'.
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