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If you followed along last year on my Write 31 Days journey, today’s word will look familiar. I considered other Q words for this post. I explored quiet, quirks, quit and in the end, I came right back to quality. So, I’m thinking I must have some refining to do in this area:-)
Companies spend millions on Quality Assurance and Quality Control. We refer to ‘quality of life’ and the benefits of ‘quality over quantity’.
Still...so many of us dismiss the importance of creating a high quality existence.
Do we intentionally choose the opposite?
A low quality existence?
That seems crazy, but we do it.
Somewhere along the way, we decide that we aren’t worth it.
We aren’t worth the good stuff.
Wow. That’s sad.
And it’s a hard habit to break.
I did this for years. In many different areas of my life.
While I have always appreciated nice things, I haven’t always felt deserving of them. Well-made items have long caught my eye. I’m fascinated by fine quality.
I’ve spent many years working in retail, surrounded by some of the most beautiful clothing imaginable. There’s no finer quality than that of a Chanel blazer or an Oscar de la Renta ballgown. Such pieces are works of art. Their elevated quality is unmistakable.
I must admit that I’ve often let my frugal (translate ‘lacking’) mentality dictate the quality of my things.
Somewhere along the line, I ignored L’Oréal’s refrain and the message in my mind became ‘I’m not worth it’.
I regularly settled for the less expensive version of something when the one I really wanted wasn’t actually beyond my financial reach.
I was unwilling to buy the full-priced item I loved if an almost-the-same (but not really), lower priced option existed. Ridiculous, right?
For too long, I accepted very low quality relationships, for the same reason. I didn’t feel worthy of anything better.
When did I decide I wasn’t worth fine quality?
I’m not exactly sure and honestly, it doesn’t matter anymore. My tune has changed and I know this...
I am worth it.
There are so many ways to increase the quality of our lives.
Relationships - Spend time with good people. People who lift you up and make you feel amazing! Recently, a dear soul and I were discussing our intolerance for clothing that itches. She added that she’s no longer interested in having ‘itchy friends’. Brilliant. If a relationship is itchy, let it go.
Homes - Bringing quality into our homes doesn’t have to be expensive. I’d love for my home to resemble a spread in Dwell magazine. And maybe someday it will. But for now, I’ve learned that one high-quality piece in a room can be enough to elevate the entire space. Long live our Eames Eiffel Rocker:-) And even more simply, I find that using good quality sponges and dish towels improves my quality of life in the kitchen.
Wardrobes - Oh, this one’s taken me a long time. I’m finally there. Quality matters in my closet. That doesn’t mean I never buy anything that’s inexpensive, because I do. I’m wearing a $7 Old Navy t-shirt as I type. But...I am very discerning with regards to quality at every price point. There are pieces at Forever 21 that are well-made and pieces that are complete junk. Seek out the good stuff.
Careers - We do our best work when that work is something we truly enjoy.
A quality career doesn't have to be the one with the highest salary. Pay attention to how your work contributes to the quality of your life.
Time - This is really the Holy Grail of quality. We should be striving for most of our time to be 'quality time'. Tweaking and changing things where necessary until our days are filled with real quality time. That sounds divine. I'm in.
Mediocre no more.
I'm using this decade to create my very best life. A high quality life.
Does quality matter to you?
Do you feel worthy of good quality things?
I so enjoy reading your comments. Thank you for sharing what these words mean to you.
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