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There were too many R words I wanted to explore. I couldn’t choose just one. So, I’ve decided to share my thoughts on a few R words. This post is a bit of a mélange.
The Google definition..."to improve (something) by making small changes, in particular make (an idea, theory, or method) more subtle and accurate."
This is what it’s all about for me this October. My topic for this writing challenge is Simply 50- refining life for the next decade. All month I’ve been exploring areas where I’d like to refine my life. After the first week, my eyes began to open to the many things I’d like to modify and improve. As the list kept growing longer, I began to panic. I felt the clock ticking and was worried I could never actually refine so much.
Then a sweet friend reminded me that I have an entire decade ahead for this project. This is a life change...urgent, but not to be rushed.
What do you want to refine for the next decade?
Rest means to cease work or movement in order to relax, refresh oneself, or recover strength. Sounds important and also dreamy. Right? So why does our society have such an aversion to the concept of rest? After resting, we return stronger and more prepared for whatever tasks lie ahead.
We are all so busy doing that we seldom take the time to rest. Yet, resting is crucial and our bodies know it.
Before I had children, I felt a little guilty when I took a nap. It seemed decadent and self-indulgent. Once I had three small children...I realized that if I didn’t rest, I was useless.
Now, I’m thrilled when I have the opportunity to nap for an hour or more...but since that rarely happens, I’m happy with a power nap. That wasn’t always possible for me, but I’ve practiced long enough that I’m now able to fall asleep quickly and wake up 12-20 minutes later...feeling great!
Our bodies need rest and so do our minds. There are signals, but I often wait too long to listen. Usually a headache or stiff neck will arrive to let me know that it’s time to rest. The silly part is that I always feel better after I finally take a break...so why don’t I remember to rest?
I’ve decided that I need to schedule some non-napping rests periods into my day. Sometimes it’s important to simply stop and just be still. It's good to temporarily let go of all that needs to be done and take a break. (Matthew, I know you are smiling, as you've been telling me this for decades:-)
I find the Pomodoro method helpful for reminding me to take a break or a short rest during the day.
Do you welcome rest periods?
This one is short and simple. It’s time to let go of being right. I try not to hold too tightly to what I think I know, but sometimes I do dig in and cling to my ‘rightness’.
That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Unless I’m helping someone with their homework and right really matters...I’m going to move forward without concern for being right.
Do you usually have to be right?
I have lots of thoughts on this word (I’ll save most of them for another post). I believe in romance. I’ve been married for 20 years. Happily. I’ve read lots of books about keeping the romance alive.
None more helpful than this one...
40 Beads- The Simple Sexy Secret for Transforming Your Marriage by Carolyn Evans. I’m just dropping this in here as food for thought. This little book truly jumped off of the library shelf one day when I was looking for new ways to stay connected in my marriage. Game changer. Not for everyone. Wanted to share.
If you know the book, I’d love to know your thoughts?
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